The Healing Force Within

“I never get angry,” says a Woody Allen character in one of the director’s movies, “I grow a tumour instead.” Much more scientific truth is encapsulated in that droll remark than many doctors would recognize.

For all its triumphs and technical progress, mainstream Western medical practice militantly dismisses the role of emotions in the physiological functioning of the human organism. Its rejection of the mind/body unity is a classic case of denial.

In over two decades of family medicine, including seven years of palliative care work, I was struck by how consistently the lives of people with chronic illness are characterized by emotional shut down: the paralysis of “negative” emotions–in particular, the feeling and expression of anger. This pattern held true in a wide range of diseases from cancer, rheumatoid arthritis and multiple sclerosis to inflammatory bowel disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome and amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). Sufferers from asthma, psoriasis, migraines, fibromyalgia, endometriosis and a host of other conditions also exhibited similar inhibitions. People seemed incapable of considering their own emotional needs and were driven by a compulsive sense of responsibility for the needs of others. They all had difficulty saying no.

One of the terminally ill patients under my care was a middle-aged man, chief executive of a company that marketed shark cartilage as a treatment for cancer. By the time he was admitted to our palliative care unit his own recently diagnosed cancer had spread throughout his body. He continued to eat shark cartilage almost to the day of his death, but not because he any longer believed in its value. It smelled foul–the offensive stench was noticeable even at some distance away– and I could only imagine what it tasted like. “I hate it,” he told me, “but my business partner would be so disappointed if I stopped.” I convinced him that he had every right to live his last days without carrying the burden of someone else’s disappointment.

As a workaholic physician, needing the whole world to love and admire me—and, above all, to need me–I also found it impossible to say no. No matter how busy I was, I always accepted one more patient, one more counseling client, one more difficult case. As I did so, there was less and less space for myself in my own life. The result was chronic back pain and a constant, low-grade depression. It was when my own difficulties finally dragged me into therapy–kicking and screaming in resistance, of course–that I began to recognize the same traits in others.

The observation that the inefficient processing of emotions predisposes to illness of all kinds has been noted by many clinicians in the past. It has been the subject of much research, all of it published in mainstream medical and psychological journals. In several studies in a number of different countries psychologists interviewing thousands of patients have been able to predict with overwhelming certainty who would and who would not develop cancer based simply on the degree to which an individual suppressed their feeling and expression of anger. Long term studies of medical students at Johns Hopkins and of Harvard undergraduates have confirmed that certain emotional traits in youth tend to be associated with illness later in life, quite apart from lifestyle influences such as smoking or drinking or exercise habits.

Science has now given us an understanding of how the interplay of emotions and physiology affects health. A new discipline, pscyhoneuoroimmunology, studies the connections between the brain areas that process emotions, the hormone-secreting glands, the nervous system and the immune apparatus. And here we confront the inadequacy of language. Even to speak of connections implies that, somehow, separate entities are linked to each other. Reality knows no such separation. There is no emotional system distinct from the hormone-producing organs, no nervous system divided from the immune defenses. One can make these divisions only in the laboratory, in autopsy specimens or in textbooks. There exists in living persons one super-system of which the emotional centres, neurological pathways, hormonal glands and immune organs are all aspects. They are all wired together electrically by nerve fibers and they also speak the same chemical language. They do not and cannot function in isolation from each other.

A cursory visit to medical libraries or to online sites is enough to show the advancing tide of research papers, journal articles and textbooks discussing the new knowledge. Information has filtered down to many people in popular books and magazines. The lay public, ahead of the professionals in many ways and less shackled to old orthodoxies, finds it less threatening to accept that we human beings cannot be divided up so easily and that the whole wondrous human organism is more than simply the sum of its parts.

How does emotional repression predispose to illness? Since there is only one system, not four separate ones, whatever happens in any one part of it will affect the other parts. The repression of anger leads to the chronic secretion of stress hormones, such as cortisol, that suppress the immune system. The body’s defenses are disarmed against infection from the outside or malignant changes from within. When anger turns against the self, as it does in people unable to express it in a healthy way, hormonal imbalances can induce the immune system to mutiny against the body. Inflammatory autoimmune diseases of the joints, blood vessels and internal organs may follow, and even conditions like diabetes and Alzheimer’s. It would be rare to find an individual with any of these diagnoses whose lifelong emotional coping patterns are not stamped by difficulty with anger.

As far as orthodox medical practice is concerned, the mind-body research all falls into some Bermuda Triangle, lost without a trace. The medical system continues to operate as if the new science did not exist. Psychoneuroimmunology has yet to enter the curricula of most medical schools. Illnesses are looked at only from the perspective of their physical manifestations. That they occur in the context of the real lives of real people is rarely considered. It’s as if a person’s relationships, emotional life and day-to-day stresses had nothing to do with how his or her body functions on the biological level. Patients may see specialists for years without the scientifically proven unity of mind and body ever being brought to their attention.

Why this neglect?

Prior to the development of powerful medications, instruments and diagnostic tools in the past century, physicians had to rely on awakening the healing forces within the patient if treatments were to succeed. That meant having to know people as individuals, cultivating a relationship with them, becoming acquainted with their lives. The advent of modern pharmacology and medical technologies vastly increased the capacity of physicians to help their patients, but reliance upon the new modalities has caused an atrophy of the age-old human wisdom that used to inform medical practice. At the beginning of the twentieth century Sir William Osler, the Canadian who is considered to be one of the greatest clinicians and medical educators of all time, was highly conscious of the mind-body unity. Osler’s name is still honoured but the spirit of his teachings has long vanished from the practice of medicine. Instead of coming along-side the traditional insights, modern medical science has completely displaced them.

The education of doctors leaves them ill-prepared to counsel patients on the relationship between stress and illness. On a more personal level, medical training is an intensely stressful experience. The men and women who undertake it are highly capable but often highly driven individuals. They are all too willing to ignore their own needs as they learn and practice their craft. Like I have been, many of them are workaholics whose professional lives fill up the spaces where a deeper, more rounded personal existence should be. From such a vantage point, they are not likely to have awareness of other people’s emotional stresses, or empathy for them. And, from a purely financial perspective, our fee-for-service system actively discourages physicians from spending the time with patients that an empathic and thoroughgoing discussion of emotional issues would demand.

Finally, at the heart of the denial is the desperate fear humans have of being blamed for their own troubles. It was a vogue in the New Age 1970’s to speak of people having “invited” diseases into their bodies as “guides.” Owing to such nauseatingly self-righteous attitudes patients felt they were being held culpable for the very fact of having fallen ill. In her famous 1978 essay, “Illness As Metaphor,” the writer Susan Sontag—then herself suffering from cancer—wrote that “The current myth(s) about cancer propose that one is responsible for one’s disease. But the cancer imagery is far more punishing. There is mostly shame attached to a disease thought to stem from the repression of emotion. The view of cancer as a disease of the failure of expressiveness condemns the cancer patient; it evinces pity but also conveys contempt.” Thus was the baby thrown out with the bathwater. Living in a culture of blame, we are obsessed with blame. The fear of it makes us afraid to embrace scientific truths.

“You may feel that there is no conceivable relationship between the behaviour of our cells, for instance and inflammation, and our conduct in everyday life,” wrote the outstanding Czech-Canadian physician and researcher, Hans Selye. “I do not agree.” Selye, who coined the word stress in its modern usage, described with mock pride how der stress, le stress and lo stress entered the German, French and Italian languages respectively. He understood stress as a set of physiological events in the body, in response to any loss or threat, real or perceived. He attached no blame to it, any more than Osler did when he suggested in 1892 that rheumatoid arthritis “had a nervous origin.” Selye also recognized that in modern life the most important stressors acting on human beings are psychological ones.

The omission of stress from the medical lexicon has unfortunate consequences. Patients often feel frustrated, not listened to, their most intimate concerns ignored. There is plenty of evidence that psychological interventions can have positive effects in the healing of a wide range of conditions. Mind and body links have to be seen not only for our understanding of illness, but also for our understanding of health. In healing, every bit of information, every piece of the truth may be crucial. Not to inform people of the links between emotions, stress and physiology is to deprive them of a powerful tool.

The issue is responsibility without blame. All of us dread being blamed, but we would all would wish to be more responsible–to have the ability to respond with awareness to our circumstances, rather than just reacting. We want to be the authoritative person in our own lives: in charge, able to make the authentic decisions that affect us. There is no true responsibility without awareness. None of us are to be blamed if we succumb to illness and death. Any one of us might succumb at any time, but the more we can learn about ourselves, the less prone we are to become passive victims.

9 thoughts on “The Healing Force Within”

  1. This articulately written article sheds light on the delicate dance of reclaiming emotional and physical health through our power to emotionally self-heal by assuming responsibility for what we can control while also relinquishing self-blame and accepting medical care to achieve holistic health. Thank you for your important work 🙂

  2. “The more we can learn about ourselves, the less prone we are to become passive victims.” I’m afraid this statement does imply that people are unwell because they have not learnt enough about themselves. It is victim blaming.

    It’s a huge jump to go from observing that people who are ill often want to protect those around them from negative emotions to believing that this is ‘the thing’ made them ill in the first place.

    I think the problem with this article is that it seems to suggest that repressed emotions are the only cause (or at least the MAIN cause) of physical illness. I agree that stress certainly does play a part. BUT it is only one small aspect of many of these diseases.

    Another aspect that has been totally ignored here is systemic prejudices within the medical establishment. The majority of the diseases mentioned here are diseased suffered by more commonly by women. There has historically been less research done into women’s diseases than men’s diseases. The ‘standard’ body in medical research for many years was the white, male body. But women’s bodies are different, for example, women’s immune systems are different to men’s because they have to be able to carry a ‘foreign body’ inside them during pregnancy. Many of the diseases mentioned are diseases with an autoimmune element (which are experienced more by women than men). We are pretty far behind on understanding and treating autoimmune illnesses largely because of the lack of research into women’s bodies.

    The prevalence of these illnesses and our lack of understanding of them, combined with a long tradition within medicine of dismissing women’s illnesses as ‘hysteria’, means that they make handy props in narratives such as this one. In fact, it may be that systemic sexism plays a greater role in the suffering of people with these diseases than ‘repressed emotions’

    The truth is far more complex than simply that repressed emotions make us ill. And I’m afraid that as much as you don’t want to sound like you are victim blaming, if this is the only lense through which you are viewing a person’s illness, you are always going to end up in that position.

    Believing that there is “ONE thing” that causes illness can help you to feel like you have a sense of control over your own health – ‘I’ll not get ill because I understand myself’ which is very comforting. But there are many, many factors that cause illness and you can never control them all. Illness is a part of life. Even the most emotionally intelligent, self actualised, happiest, loved and free people get sick. To imply otherwise, is ableist.

    Minimising stress is important and it can help us to be happy and healthy but it can’t protect us from ever getting sick.

    I think more nuance is needed in this argument.

    1. I agree with you.

      Women especially know the experience of going to the doctor and being told our symptoms are “just stress” and leaving without the required medical intervention. Stress can contribute but the physiological still needs attending to.

    2. I think if you read his book, “The Myth of Normal” you’ll see that he does provide the nuances you’re seeking—from women’s unique health issues being misunderstood to systemic racism and prejudice all playing a role that leads to stress on one’s nervous system. It’s impossible that Gabor Mate is victim blaming if you know truly what it is and why people engage in it. It’s for a perpetrator to avoid responsibility for causing pain or to lull one into a feeling of safety that they will not befall a horrible circumstance themselves. A doctor dedicating his life to curing others who himself has suffered trauma, depression and ADHD just doesn’t fit the mold. Read the book and you’ll see that he’s not only teaching how to heal yourself from chronic diseass, he’s taking you on his own journey of healing. No, you can’t avoid all suffering and illness in life, but auto immune diseases are a modern plague and are due to the body turning against itself… why would it do that? Because after so many years under stress, the body gives out. You can’t blame a person for how their body responds to stress anymore than you can blame a person for how they digest their food.

  3. What resonated most for me about this article was the importance placed on the importance of expressing anger on health. Normally deemed a ‘negative’ emotion, the research shown in this article displaces simplistic notions of good and bad with regard to this emotion, while emphasizing the functional role of anger in defending us from boundary violations throughout our lives, and how intricately this dynamic ties in with healthy immune functioning. Bravo Dr Mate

  4. Claire Murrell

    I have long believed that there is a powerful link between our mental and physical heath and this insightful article only strengthens that belief. How interesting to think that when doctors did not have a huge choice of pharmaceuticals at their fingertips in the past they were forced to get to know their patients a little more to treat them successfully.
    Both my partner and I have been treated for cancer and we are forever grateful for the medical intervention we have received that literally saved our lives but we can both identify with the struggle to recognise and vocalise our own emotions and needs and how that may of contributed to development of the illnesses in the first place. As a trainee psychotherapist I see this in my clients too .
    Thankfully now we are readdressing that balance for ourselves and I shall endeavour to keep exploring these ideas with my clients.
    Thank you for sharing this article.🙏

  5. I find the work of this wonderful man fascinating.
    I have suffered with CFS for 19 years. I believe this is a psychosomatic illness, but I just don’t know how to get better??

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  7. Your insights are precious and presented in a forthright manner. Having read your books and listened to a number of your YouTube video interviews I am excited that you are bringing this message out into the open.
    However, I am curious as to why one person will develop one disease while another will develop a completely different disease. Do you have any insight on this?
    Secondly, Wilhelm Reich followed by Alexander Lowen who developed Bioenergetics, a therapy that explores in some detail the relationship of the mind and body, propose that trauma at different stages of an infants development will lead to different “Character Structures” – coping mechanisms. The therapy utilizes a variety of exercises for an individual to identify and process their coping mechanisms. Are you familiar with this body of work? It appears to complement your work, especially with its identity of disassociation and repression as different coping mechanisms that require a different approach in therapy.
    I work outside of mainstream health care teaching reflexology to practitioners. Reflexology identifies the location of stress in the body and alleviates it. However, from my perspective this is frequently a bandaid that addresses symptoms. I am thinking to develop a training program that would support clients to explore the source of their stress.
    I would love to have an opportunity to talk with you, but, realistically at this point your response to my questions will probably have to suffice.. Warm regards, Chris Shirley

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